There are many things in life that make us wonder what the next step is. I have taken on many new and unforeseen responsibilities in the past year and while many of these things make me scratch my head and wonder if it is all worth it, at the end of the day I have no doubt that it is.
For any Father, Dad or Male Role Model out there, if you are going to step up to impregnate, act as a father or be a dad…this job is for life!!! REALIZE THAT AND DON’T DO IT IF YOU CAN’T MAN UP!!!
I find myself faced with the challenge of being a Father and a Dad to my own child but through the blessing of finding my one true love after 44 years, I have inherited two other children whose own fathers/dads have seen fit to decide that the job was either too difficult or not worth the reward!
Well I call BULL SHIT on that one.
If any male is man enough to impregnate a woman…than they should be man enough to be able to own up to the responsiblity of that role for the life time of the child!
Once a father, always a father!
14 months ago I truly believe that I met my soul mate. The one person that I was pre-destined to spend the rest of my life with…and one challenge that I faced is that not only did she have to accept my own flesh and blood but I had to accept hers.
Neither circumstance has come without its challenges, but we as a team…are making the best of a challenging world that neither of us signed on for but both of us recognize as our responsibilities.
To the men in the world out there that think that life is a one and done or worse…after a divorce that life goes on without responsibility…own up to the life that you were 50% responsible for bringing into this world!
This is not just the financial challenges…but just being there. It doesn’t have to be every day…but don’t ignore what you signed on for…because the reality is what you don’t do…someone else has to try to make up for and that more than money is a MASSIVE RESPONSIBILITY!
You don’t have to be the primary care giver to maintain a relationship.
You don’t even have to pay a ransom to prove you are a good dad.
What you do have to do is BE THERE! BE A FUCKING FATHER!!!!
I am so angry that I can not get through to the two adult children that I do love as much as my own flesh and blood that I love them for no other reason than that the only example of manly love that they have experienced is abandonment and ignorance!
I am not implying that I haven all the answers but from my own experience…being there for your child regardless of it they are 2 years old, 12 years old or in my case 16, 18 and 25 (two of which are not my own kids) you need to take ownership of your responsibilities and even if you FUCK UP…OWN IT!!!
There is no second chance to get it right and trying is so much more than just a support payment.
So I leave this…if you have a Penis…then respect the fact that you could, may and will be a father…and do what a man does and that is do what men do…BE A FUCKING MAN!!!!